By: Dr. Agbenyo
More than a mother
Client : Doc, please help me to get pregnant asap because that is the precondition set by my boyfriend to marry me.
Me : My dear, don’t you think you are more than a mother? Will he think that you are less of a woman without offsprings?
Client : Hmm doc, I love him and will do anything to keep him.
Me: That’s very admirable of you but does he feel the same way about you? If so, why do you have to justify that you are worthy of his love?
You are valuable, don’t cheapen your existence
💣Are we constantly found among people who don’t see our value?
💣Are we struggling to get accepted/recognition from people by bending backwards on all our principles?
💣Do we think that it is the responsibility of other people to treat us well by default?
💣Do we get upset when we are treated as trash?
🕹️Are we aware that we set the standards for how others treat us? And that, we have to take full responsibility for ensuring those standards are upheld?
🕹️The problem is that most of us don’t consciously decide the standards which are acceptable to us. Thus, we may project ourselves anyhow and receive bad treatment as a result.
🙏 Sometimes, too, no matter how we distinguish ourselves creditably, we still get people who would want us to feel insignificant. This could be because our output makes them feel uncomfortable. If we believe that is the case after an objective sober reflection, ignore them. We don’t need such external validation to feel and act optimally.
🙏 It’s okay to give our all to those around us but never our sense of dignity because when we are pushed to our elastic limit, it is our self-worth which will give us enough courage to keep on keeping on.
🙏Why should we climb a huge mountain to please someone who will not jump over a tiny anthill to be there for us?
🙏The highest honour we can do to ourselves is to have the boldness to move away from anyone/anything which always wants us to justify why we are worthy of their love/acceptance.
💞 Do we also make it easier for others to denigrate us because of low self esteem/inferiority complex? Don’t you think it was about time we initiated positive internal dialogue to change the narrative? We can become more confident by viewing ourselves in a more positive way and projecting same. No one can ever make us feel less valuable without our full endorsement!
🙏To all those who devalue others, feeling superior by putting others down is not glorifying for a true achiever. In fact, it’s a mark of insecurity.You must develop enough self-restraint to caution yourself from saying/doing things that will devalue others.
💡 Serenity 🕯️
Highly developed originals fit for purpose are hard to come by these days because everyone/everything around us is constantly trying to change us into something else. The boldness to place value on ourselves and believe in us is the greatest accomplishment we can ever achieve. Amen